|Ben Affleck and Jen Garner during the 2013 Award Season - a good one for Ben|
Way back in February, I wrote a post about 2013 Academy Award winning Best Picture Argo's Director, Ben Affleck. That post was solely about the work part of his triumph. Find it here. I was so impressed and did not get to actually see the movie until a few weeks ago. Fired up to cheer for Ben all these months later, I was reminded of his acceptance speech all over again. I loved the speech. Every word. And while before I chose to focus on the work part of the speech and pursuing your dreams, it is the other "work" part of the speech, I'd like to focus on today. Ben said something to his wife, fellow actor, Jennifer Garner, about his marriage that sent the internet abuzz.
"I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with."
We are full speed into the 2013 wedding season now and what better time to shine a light on Mr. Affleck's wise statement. Marriage is work. No doubt. Without question.
Many people tried to read into his statement as if something was "wrong" in their marriage. He went so far as to "defend" his statement in a SNL monologue months later, inviting his wife to join him. Ben, you needn't have worried. Those of us toiling in our own (12 years and counting over here) marriages get it. More people would be wise to listen to what you said. Even in his SNL defense - he touched on something I think most people can relate to as well.
"You define what’s important to you by what you dedicate your time to."
After seeing the masterpiece that is his work in Argo - I got it all over again. I have for the last few years been building a business and love my work. Just as I love my marriage and family. Work has such a huge impact on my life and I can see how easy it is to parallel almost every thing else to it.
Owning a business is work.
Anything worth having, requires work.
Most valuable things are created with work.
Raising kids with someone else is work.
Wealth is created the first time with work.
And yes, marriages that go the duration also entail work. Kudos to a Hollywood star for being so brutally honest with us and sharing that they, too, experience some aspects of life like the rest of us.
I have always appreciated Ben Affleck. Thanks, Ben for validating that irrational appreciation.