My mom - Betty Jean (Jackson) Wilmer died four months shy of her 25th birthday back in 1976. This past Friday after I blogged about my hair - it hit me that she would have been 57 on that day - December 12. It is such a mixed feeling to think that I have lived longer than she did. It is mind boggling to know that she has been dead longer than she was alive. When I think of her - I am grateful. For everything.
I am certain that my personality today was directly affected by her absence. The trajectory of my life is forever changed by events that took place back on August 19, 1976 and I am forever grateful.
Authentic gratitude is not flimsy - it really looking at a person, an event, a situation - fill in the blank and seeing past the immediate view and understanding the how all things contribute to our lives. The dictionary definition of gratitude is "the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful".
There are obvious positive connotations to that but I assert that we also have to be grateful for the tragedies.
I have no idea why my mom was allowed so little time on this earth but I am grateful that she was here - even for that ever so brief moment.
I am thankful for my life. I am thankful that Betty Jean Jackson met Albert Wilmer.
I am grateful for my family.
I am grateful for my career and all the new twists and turns it is taking.
In the holiday period - we all reflect on gratefulness a bit more - I challenge you in the new year to be grateful always.
Make it a habit.